“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by the dogma, which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. Most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition, they some how already know what you truly want to become.” ~ Steve Jobs. (See YouTube Commencement Speech in English and Interpreted in ASL – Here)
Steve said this in his commencement speech at Standford University in 2005. I am not fond of Steve but there are considerations to his persona that make this statement relevant. It is also pretty much true when it comes to being already different and expecting one to be the same as others when you know that you are living someone’s life.
This is often what I hear or see other people say. We who are by nature different are often told we cannot be ourselves because that is not ‘natural’ (according to society). We have to adhere to the ways of the socially superior ethnocentric culture that is in dominant force.
This is a burden, a burden I often remember and forget intentionally to relieve the depressing parts of being different. Think about it. I know and accept that I am different, this is not depressing because I celebrate that. What is so depressing about being different is other people. People who are ignorant and conformists, which is a majority of the people.
Two examples: My children, one is hearing and the other is hard of hearing. I am not going to waste their lives harping on their ability to hear or speak when they have a soul, brain and body to live with. I want them to have everything that is available for them (sans technology if possible, :D… ok, not). I have met people who have lived under the shadow of oppression, denial and grief from those around them, they led the lives the others wanted them to lead according to THEM. Once the folks saw what they were missing out of life, their journeys took a different fork in the road, often severing ties with the people of shadow.
Ignorance and outright defiance of difference causes pain, confusion and the truth to lie low. Would you rather live a life marred by lies that gave you smiles or the truth that allows tears to flow and hearts and souls to be healed? Why limit, when the sky and stars are unlimited?