a Tear or a Smile?

Vlog – a Tear or a Smile?

This hit me today. I have been fully aware of this quote as I go through life daily. Yet a conversation such as today brings this close to mind and heart. This is a question one needs to ask oneself periodically through out the journey of a lifetime.

So which is it? What is better?  The truth that draws a tear or the lie that draws a smile?**  Most of will agree that the truth hurts when confronted with it and with time and the chance to self-analyze the truth, acceptance and the chance to make changes, to improve, to understand and see things in a different light.

a tear


A greater pain is the lie that people just tell or let go. You wonder ‘let go’?  How is letting go a lie? It does not promote dialogue nor a pathway for change. A lie is not a simple thing, it creates conflict and dishonesty, hurting all that ‘benefit’ from this lie. A lie does not offer opportunities nor does it offer chances. It takes them away. That hurts more deeply than the truth.

I have said my piece, yet I want to bring something up. Responsibility. Many people think that it is the sole person’s responsibility for everything in life or in what they do. Unfortunately, this is not true.

I had this conversation once with my mother at a soccer game.  We were talking about stuff and she asked me why I did not use sign language at home.  I explained that it became a habit to sign at school and speak at home. She put the responsibility of signing at home at my hands, 100%.  I told her that it was also her responsibility and whomever in the house to tell me to shut up and start signing (I literally said ‘shut up’ because by nature I am a chatterbox, when the time comes). It is the both of us who are responsible for what we do, no matter how heartfelt our intentions are, equally.

Each of us may have a different type of responsibility and at different levels one time or another. No person is solely responsible for the outcome, consequences or actions that occurs. That responsibility is equal among others. This denial and placing the responsibility upon one person is a form of a lie.  When we do not stand up, then the lie continues.


Which is it? A tear or a smile?





People, people….people.

I enjoyed Sunday at Michigan City with family and friends. It was certainly hot, the sand hotter than the air, whoo!  I think one of my toes is happy with the heat as it does not hurt anymore.

There was only one thing to mar the day, yes, littering. We went into the water, found various items that are dangerous to the wildlife; plastic bags, fabrics and plastic bottles to name a few. Not only is it dangerous for wildlife, its also dangerous for children and adults. One can drown or be trapped by litter.

Almost no one picked up their litter, fortunately for my group, we had trash bags ready, for the trash cans provided by MC park was full and I did not see if any workers emptied the cans. I am sure the workers were faced with a littered beach, after last night’s fireworks.

Some will say “my taxes go into keeping the park clean”, while many will remain ignorant (and do not teach their kids responsibility) and a few keep their areas clean or pick up after others. Paying taxes is one of those required aspects of living where you live, since they pay for, i.e.  school and government operations. It is our responsibility to ensure our towns/cities remain beautiful and healthy environments for everyone, including our wildlife.

Remember “Keeping America Beautiful.”  It starts at home.  Here’s the link: http://www.kab.org/site/PageServer?pagename=index

P.S. Two things: today, a SUV in front of me littered a bag of chips on a country road, I got angry and signed vehemently. I do litter…foods that are naturally environmentally friendly, i.e. banana peels and remnants of apples, bread too.

Update: A few days ago… got a neat video about water – bottles and tap. Both ASL and English are in use… here it is: http://youtu.be/rTgQV_93rpc